I personally have lot to say in this topic. Of course, spending money unnecessarily in marriage is a wrong thing to be done in our life. There is no doubt in the fact that we earn money to spend. It is there to fulfill our worldly desires. But we should be able to make best possible use of it. By spending our money in celebrating our marriage in grandest style we are not trying to be happy instead we are trying to compete in society and are trying to show how prosperous we are. Instead of doing so we could use it wisely. If we want to celebrate marriage in extraordinary way than we can call a mass and then donate the whole total amount to be spent in wedding to some organizations. That would be remembered. of-course we want our marriage to be memorable and if we are rich we could spend as much money as we like to make history. Though it is true that ''when our right hand is serving our left hand should be unknown to it''. But since all of us are selfish it would not bad even to donate the amount that we were willing to spend in your wedding and claim for the service we have done. After-all service is service, though we claim for it or not.So, have a small wedding,give the money to bride and groom, encourage them to use it for service, which would be the grandest style marriage and would be remembered for years. This way we would get ''sweets in both hands''. This trend would also change the whole direction of Nepal. Whoever would do this would be the leader and even I would try to be the follower. Marriage is a lovely relationship and let's we all make it pure too by our good deeds. -This is written by taking into consideration of the rich families of Nepal.

There's a well known saying in nepali "Ghati herera haad nilnu" which would mean cut the coat with the size of cloth. Its true that its a once in a lifetime ceremony, but that doesn't in any way mean that we should necessarily celebrate it in a very grand way. If we have plenty of money then there is no problem. But taking loans just for a marriage and spending it unnecessarily only because you are afraid of what society might say is ridiculous. Marriage in itself is a very special occasion for both the bride and groom and their families. Whether its a grand one or just a simple one its gonna be special to them. So in my opinion, Spending the money unnecessarily doesn't sound good. Money can be utilized instead or given to the couples for their future use.

Definitely its no no to grandest style as nothing beneficial can be gained from the fortune being spent. Only memories remains and living with memories is not possible. Its better to hand over the fortune to bride and groom so that they can escape misfortunes in coming days and sustain for their better living.

Wedding is legal and social union of man and woman to be husband and wife in such ceremony which unites the heart of the bride and bridegroom the wedding ceremony should be done in a grand way as possible. Weeding is such a ceremony that is done only once in lifetime and in such a special occasion also we should not hesitate to spend our money what’s the money for if we don’t make use of it in correct time. Giving money to the couples means to make them dependent in their life. So, better to do a grand marriage ceremony so that our relatives and neighbors may remember it for their lifetime. Doing in a grand way doesn’t mean to spend the money lavishly. People should also see their economic condition to what much extend they can spend. Therefore in my opinion doing a grand weeding ceremony is the better one. -Janendra Parajuli M.H.S.S,Pkr

The grandest style! What does, in fact, it mean? And how much grand is the grandest? For this, how much one has to expend? Crores or lakhs? Marriage on itself is the most memorable event in life for everyone. No doubt it’s an once-in-a-lifetime occasion, but is it prudent to make it extravagant so that one has to repent for life? Besides uniting two people, marriage entangles two families making them one. If so, then why people forget the burdens that the families would have just because of those all artificial show offs to the society? The idea of giving money to bride and groom- for future use! It’s another total nonsense! Everybody should understand that marriage is not an act of business; it’s a noble human phenomenon- and no money, whether in the form of ‘money for future plan, dowry or any extravaganza, should tarnish it. Let the marriage be a marriage, not a circus!

in my opinion marriage is one of the most auspicious moment in each and everyone's life well it depends to the couple ,in what way they want to make their marriage special and its true that for this you need a lot of money,but we can make it simple as well,for which court marriage will be the best one where you and your partner with some friends go for court and get married over there.so it all depends on how you mean to enjoy;whether to prefer to to have simple foods and group dance in your own house or giving a grand party in an expensive place.Wherever,however,but you must should be sure to make your wedding memorable with full of joys and entertainment well it does not need to make so much expencive which is beyond your financial limit. Infact nowadays, marriage have been extravagently showy rather than enjoyment which always creates problem in middle class and poor family. I do believe marriages are made by gods in heaven of which we solemize in Earth. So we must should bring changes so that the people would know the real meaning of marriage rather spending lots of money which is just for show off……Rupa singh,sangamchowk;Newbaneshwor.

Marriage being a new beginning of life,i loved to go for grandest style rather than small wedding. The whole life if you want ,you can save your money,you can escape your wants from unwanted luxury.Since,marriage is once in a life,should be done with full togetherness,and calling relatives. It is only marriage after festivals that relatives get together,share love,aspiration and bind together.Money doesn't make man,man makes money and if such earnings can buy happiness on wedding,what the value of such earnings?? fulfilling basic needs of life only doesn't give self-esteem in life,socialization is main earnings and popularity is main assests for happy life. saroj khadka B.F.S.S,tinthana

Wedding is about union of two souls.money doesn't help to have happy life. Has every big weddings been successful?or Has every small weddings been unsuccessful? No, absolutely not. If a man does grandest style wedding, he is planting a seed of burden.It will be compulsory to spend big amount of money for next generation wedding too.Nowadays people in wedding parties put a lot food in their plates but have some parts of it and throw rest. It is like insulting of food. It causes pollution. "once a swallow doesn't last a summer. In big parties we spend a lot of money just for a second pleasure. You may face an accident tomorrow after having a big party. At that time if you don't have a single penny then you will be in difficulty. If you give that money to bride and groom it will help them.

Our society is such an important part in our life that we bind ourselves to it. There is so much of responsibility that we have towards it that at times we do things which are way different than what we would have done if it was just left on us. Similarly,the boundaries and expectations that lie on each family is unimaginable at times. Weddings, even if it is a one-time event can be done in a very smaller yet in a grand way by calling just the people that you want to and spending the required amount.Unnecessary and extra expense is just a waste of money.There are so many events in the wedding, and so many of them have to be followed because the tradition makes it a compulsion for one to follow it. The money that you earn need not necessarily be used in the wedding. The fortune that we spend can be saved and used for a holiday or as an investment.It should actually be left to the choice of the bride and groom and how they want it. It is their wedding and they should be given the right to decide. Weddings are grand and is so much of fun but the money that people spend just for show off and for the societal needs is wrong.We need to be the change. We need to REVOLUTIONIZE.

As we can see some of the merriages are ending in devorce due to extra marital affair and other various reason,so Merriage is not what it used to be before.So I think it is foolishness to spend the fortune for celebration of wedding.I know that merriage is the once in life time opportunity if it lasts long but seeing today's senario it would be better to save those money for future as future is uncertain and those money which we spend generously today will definitely be required in future as well.So In my opinion small wedding party is good because eventhough if the wedding is done in grandest style,it will remain in the guest's view for some time and fade away and also if anyone will praise about the grandest party one has given,The money he has return will not return and everyone knows that it is very hard to earn money.